Written By Gaston
July 11, 2017, 12:37 p.m.(10/25/1006 AR)
No, I won't be sharing my thoughts on marriage.
Written By Samantha
July 11, 2017, 11:49 a.m.(10/24/1006 AR)
As it is the fashion at the moment, I shall share my thoughts on marriage.
I was not born of the original Deepwood bloodline, but I have been named a Deepwood, and am indeed the only Deepwood, and so it is my duty to carry the name and establish the bloodline anew. But Deepwood has become a phoenix rising from its own ashes; a place where those who have lost much can begin again, and emerge stronger for it. And so I have always known that I was obligated to marry at some point, and to the benefit of my march.
The question of course, then becomes - what do I need to look for in a spouse? Well, I knew I could not marry a fellow landholding noble, because it would complicate the dominion of our respective territories. I could not marry higher unless my potential spouse was willing to step down in terms of title, as any spouse of mine would need to take my name. It would be unprecedented, but not unreasonable, to marry from a commoner family if they were of sufficient economic status and societal placement, but most certainly not ideal.
In terms of title, I would need to find someone of equal or lesser rank. But what qualities must I pursue in said spouse? Statecraft was the study in which I was trained, and I was dependant on the strength of my advisors where martial matters were concerned. The consideration seemed obvious; I would need to marry a man of martial skill and noble birth, able to lead Deepwood's military forces as I would guide it in rulership.
I think it is the general consensus that I married for love, and in part, I did. But Rymarr was also exactly what I needed in terms of a spouse - a man of suitable rank, well-schooled in martial matters, and would father strong children to continue the Deepwood name. I can tell you that when we met, neither of us thought our lives would lead us to where we are now, but we both thank the gods every day that it did.
His suitability is beyond reproach, but that is not why I love him. We are building something together. We fit to each other like pieces of a puzzle, in all the ways that are important.
I can only pray that others, noble or commoner, can find such happiness in their partners.
I was not born of the original Deepwood bloodline, but I have been named a Deepwood, and am indeed the only Deepwood, and so it is my duty to carry the name and establish the bloodline anew. But Deepwood has become a phoenix rising from its own ashes; a place where those who have lost much can begin again, and emerge stronger for it. And so I have always known that I was obligated to marry at some point, and to the benefit of my march.
The question of course, then becomes - what do I need to look for in a spouse? Well, I knew I could not marry a fellow landholding noble, because it would complicate the dominion of our respective territories. I could not marry higher unless my potential spouse was willing to step down in terms of title, as any spouse of mine would need to take my name. It would be unprecedented, but not unreasonable, to marry from a commoner family if they were of sufficient economic status and societal placement, but most certainly not ideal.
In terms of title, I would need to find someone of equal or lesser rank. But what qualities must I pursue in said spouse? Statecraft was the study in which I was trained, and I was dependant on the strength of my advisors where martial matters were concerned. The consideration seemed obvious; I would need to marry a man of martial skill and noble birth, able to lead Deepwood's military forces as I would guide it in rulership.
I think it is the general consensus that I married for love, and in part, I did. But Rymarr was also exactly what I needed in terms of a spouse - a man of suitable rank, well-schooled in martial matters, and would father strong children to continue the Deepwood name. I can tell you that when we met, neither of us thought our lives would lead us to where we are now, but we both thank the gods every day that it did.
His suitability is beyond reproach, but that is not why I love him. We are building something together. We fit to each other like pieces of a puzzle, in all the ways that are important.
I can only pray that others, noble or commoner, can find such happiness in their partners.
Written By Aiden
July 11, 2017, 11:03 a.m.(10/24/1006 AR)
I decided to write about my musing of marriage and love, after reading journals about it and seeing all the proclamations of arrangements. Here it goes.
I received formal training when I was younger on the matter of state and the use of marriage. I was taught marriage for love is //often// a selfish pursuit. There are exceptions, as my tutors told me, as there are exceptions with everything in life.
However, it was explained to me that marriage for love was selfish because as a noble you have more to think about than yourself and when you are in love, you are only thinking about your own happiness. In reality, you have the happiness of those people who gave fealty to your house and home to think of, you have the happiness of your family to think about, you have your Great House to think about, you have your King and Arvum to think about. Marriage is best used to unite bonds between two families that ideally wouldn't come together, by creating that bond in blood by having offspring to carry the ties for generations to come. It's about trade pacts and sealing loyalties, also about the shifting of wealth and influence. It's about creating strength in unity and increasing the standard of living for all those who depend on you, so you should anticipate some social, military, or economic pact to assist with that. One can grow to learn to love their spouse but it shouldn't be the foundation for marriage.
That is what I was taught. That is what my friends have heard me saying when they've approached me in confusion or suggestion, that I get married to the Baron. When I reply, I cannot marry, they are most befuddled. We all know there is nothing against the idea of two people, regardless of gender, being wed before the Faith, of which I've ensured by reading of it. It would therefore depend on the High Lord of House.
I explain, while in an ideal world, I would marry Silas, in this world, it would be selfish and not the right thing to do. The Baron is landed and already given in fealty to Grayson. He is also the first of his name and as such, he will need to have heirs. Adoption could be possible, but it would not be a tie of blood that leads to creating long lines of nobility which is a part of our culture. This is the world of nobility. We could both step away from our noble titles and it would be of no consequence, but that, you see, would be utterly selfish.
So no, we cannot marry. It's hard to accept, but I have, I always have. He will need a wife - clearly one day in the far future because honestly I wish for more lasting time with him. However, it is not for me to be in the way of the duty he accepted when he took on the mantle of Baron.
As for myself, my last talk to Lark proved that it is likely that my marriage, if one ever happens, will be bound to the needs of Grayson - as I've been raised to understand. To that end, I am in no rush to be married either, truthfully, I like my life as it is. Yet I know, should there be an opportunity in the future for House Grayson to secure an alliance by the promise of my marriage, then so be it.
Until then, I live fortunately. I've found love. And it is no simple thing. It is profound. And I would wish for everyone to live in such a gift from Limerance. Everyone should know it. So if you can find a marriage match that will benefit more than just you, well, you should be giving your prayers to Limerance, for your life is a blessed one.
I received formal training when I was younger on the matter of state and the use of marriage. I was taught marriage for love is //often// a selfish pursuit. There are exceptions, as my tutors told me, as there are exceptions with everything in life.
However, it was explained to me that marriage for love was selfish because as a noble you have more to think about than yourself and when you are in love, you are only thinking about your own happiness. In reality, you have the happiness of those people who gave fealty to your house and home to think of, you have the happiness of your family to think about, you have your Great House to think about, you have your King and Arvum to think about. Marriage is best used to unite bonds between two families that ideally wouldn't come together, by creating that bond in blood by having offspring to carry the ties for generations to come. It's about trade pacts and sealing loyalties, also about the shifting of wealth and influence. It's about creating strength in unity and increasing the standard of living for all those who depend on you, so you should anticipate some social, military, or economic pact to assist with that. One can grow to learn to love their spouse but it shouldn't be the foundation for marriage.
That is what I was taught. That is what my friends have heard me saying when they've approached me in confusion or suggestion, that I get married to the Baron. When I reply, I cannot marry, they are most befuddled. We all know there is nothing against the idea of two people, regardless of gender, being wed before the Faith, of which I've ensured by reading of it. It would therefore depend on the High Lord of House.
I explain, while in an ideal world, I would marry Silas, in this world, it would be selfish and not the right thing to do. The Baron is landed and already given in fealty to Grayson. He is also the first of his name and as such, he will need to have heirs. Adoption could be possible, but it would not be a tie of blood that leads to creating long lines of nobility which is a part of our culture. This is the world of nobility. We could both step away from our noble titles and it would be of no consequence, but that, you see, would be utterly selfish.
So no, we cannot marry. It's hard to accept, but I have, I always have. He will need a wife - clearly one day in the far future because honestly I wish for more lasting time with him. However, it is not for me to be in the way of the duty he accepted when he took on the mantle of Baron.
As for myself, my last talk to Lark proved that it is likely that my marriage, if one ever happens, will be bound to the needs of Grayson - as I've been raised to understand. To that end, I am in no rush to be married either, truthfully, I like my life as it is. Yet I know, should there be an opportunity in the future for House Grayson to secure an alliance by the promise of my marriage, then so be it.
Until then, I live fortunately. I've found love. And it is no simple thing. It is profound. And I would wish for everyone to live in such a gift from Limerance. Everyone should know it. So if you can find a marriage match that will benefit more than just you, well, you should be giving your prayers to Limerance, for your life is a blessed one.
Written By Juliana
July 11, 2017, 9:35 a.m.(10/24/1006 AR)
I met Prince Tyrval last night and I must say what a fascinating night it was! House Pravus and some choice guests were offered the challenge of a game and it was... fascinating. Or perhaps it was that I was dazzled by the splendor of his raiment and all I can recall of the night is the sheen of that exquisite silk. He said it was made by a human crafter some five hundred years ago. I wonder if it is possible to recapture that level of skill?
Written By Monique
July 11, 2017, 1:50 a.m.(10/24/1006 AR)
Marriage is like a cage; one sees the birds outside desperate to get in, and those inside equally desperate to get out.
Written By Sameera
July 11, 2017, 12:49 a.m.(10/24/1006 AR)
Relationship Note on Shard
No wiser roads have been spoken. I feel, it's rare, rather inclined to get to know you better.
Written By Shard
July 11, 2017, 12:03 a.m.(10/23/1006 AR)
Blah blah blah blah marriage.
I think the current flurry of relationships can be pretty easily explained, it's just no one wants to think in those particular terms, particularly the nobility. The city just survived a devastating war. Thousands of people died. Suddenly a lot of the survivors want to pair up. It's just base instinct, not some mysterious seasonal quality.
I know, I'm a true romantic.
I think the current flurry of relationships can be pretty easily explained, it's just no one wants to think in those particular terms, particularly the nobility. The city just survived a devastating war. Thousands of people died. Suddenly a lot of the survivors want to pair up. It's just base instinct, not some mysterious seasonal quality.
I know, I'm a true romantic.
Written By Thena
July 10, 2017, 9:33 p.m.(10/23/1006 AR)
Relationship Note on Calaudrin
No.
Written By Calaudrin
July 10, 2017, 9:30 p.m.(10/23/1006 AR)
Relationship Note on Thena
My only question on marriage is this: If you're "Sister Thena Grayhope" now, can I request you to marry me? And by request I mean, pen a heartfelt letter to Legate Orazion about why I need this and hope he agrees with me.
Written By Carita
July 10, 2017, 7:48 p.m.(10/23/1006 AR)
To note: if one should happen to stroll by the Black Point Wharf, one might be inclined to notice a new piece of statuary standing at the pier.
I am dying to know what the general public thinks of it.
I am dying to know what the general public thinks of it.
Written By Thena
July 10, 2017, 5:41 p.m.(10/23/1006 AR)
For those concerned with marriage stress, might I suggest the Faith? Marriage is not even allowed! Personally I find it frees up a lot of time to worry about other things.
Written By Skapti
July 10, 2017, 5:13 p.m.(10/23/1006 AR)
Marriage I would think is something I'll likely never have to worry about, thankfully.
Written By Fortunato
July 10, 2017, 4:38 p.m.(10/23/1006 AR)
One of the great, strange freedoms of being common is the freedom not to marry. And, if you do marry, the freedom to have a marriage of no political importance at all. How restful.
Written By Sebastian
July 10, 2017, 3:39 p.m.(10/23/1006 AR)
Relationship Note on Cesare
My first true visit to Whisper House and I find myself greeted by the familiar strains of a song I had not heard for some time and in faraway Setarco. And then, the familiar face of Cesare Whisper, a man whose voice can evoke such emotion from his listeners as to leave them awash on a shore manifested of such poignant imagery. It was a pleasure to have some time to walk and talk of art, inspiration, and the search for that which drives those who create. I look forward to future visits.
Written By Sebastian
July 10, 2017, 3:11 p.m.(10/23/1006 AR)
Perhaps I will take up sculpture again. Though the images that haunt me, and beg to be expressed in the colors of canvas rather than through form and figure, are still heavy within my head -- I find myself called once more to cut away and reveal what is beneath. I have listed first one way, and then another, and now perhaps a balance might be struck between these disparate acts of creation, one additive, one subtractive. Maybe balance is what I seek, ultimately, rather than resolution, just enough answers and just enough questions to keep the whole from collapsing.
Written By Edward
July 10, 2017, 2:41 p.m.(10/23/1006 AR)
Relationship Note on Regla
Many may disagree but...
You are a Lady in a prominent House. Any marriage concern should be how it benefits your House. Love in a marriage is a welcome addition but should not be the basis for the marriage.
You are a Lady in a prominent House. Any marriage concern should be how it benefits your House. Love in a marriage is a welcome addition but should not be the basis for the marriage.
Written By Regla
July 10, 2017, 1:18 p.m.(10/23/1006 AR)
It does appear as though love, or at least marriage, is in the air. Every where you look there is a wedding, or someone preparing for a wedding, or looking for a marriage. My brother said "marry for love", that is a nice idea. But really?
Am I in touch enough with my emotions to fall in love? Of course. Some might argue I'm more a creature of emotion than anything else. But love is a different animal entirely. I've loved, I've been loved, I've been in love, I've been in love with the idea of love, and I've even been OUT of love with the idea of love. I might love a lot of different people a little bit, it's happened before.
Everywhere I look though, everyone is with everyone else, or "love" isn't going to solve the insurmountable obstacles to a marriage.
Love is hard.
Marriage for politics. For Family. It suddenly seems easier.
I find myself envying those that have their matches made for them by their family. Which is odd, I hate being told how to live my life. But could I ever find that one perfect person to love and want to marry, and everyone be able to, to have everyone agree? It makes my head hurt to think about. But these days you can't avoid the word marriage or wedding. Maybe once winter sets in, people will stop with their stupid weddings.
Am I in touch enough with my emotions to fall in love? Of course. Some might argue I'm more a creature of emotion than anything else. But love is a different animal entirely. I've loved, I've been loved, I've been in love, I've been in love with the idea of love, and I've even been OUT of love with the idea of love. I might love a lot of different people a little bit, it's happened before.
Everywhere I look though, everyone is with everyone else, or "love" isn't going to solve the insurmountable obstacles to a marriage.
Love is hard.
Marriage for politics. For Family. It suddenly seems easier.
I find myself envying those that have their matches made for them by their family. Which is odd, I hate being told how to live my life. But could I ever find that one perfect person to love and want to marry, and everyone be able to, to have everyone agree? It makes my head hurt to think about. But these days you can't avoid the word marriage or wedding. Maybe once winter sets in, people will stop with their stupid weddings.
Written By Carita
July 10, 2017, 11:35 a.m.(10/22/1006 AR)
So many marriages, so many betrothals, so many pending - so many flourishing. It's wonderful to see.
Oddly, it reminds me of my mother. My mother told me a few things about the world when I was young. She said: "Everyone is going to break your heart, if you're generous." But, I haven't found that to be true at all. Or, at least not yet! What she should have said was: "Being the Voice of a House is going to be the most busy, and possibly loneliest endeavor in the world." Ah! Then, she would be right, and I would remember her advice now so that I would be feeling less alone, and more blessed by the fact that my House is thriving.
I will admit to being tempted to do things outside of my scope - there is an interest to pursue love and a match for myself. I doubt that anyone is willing to marry down - or worse! Marry sideways and take my name. Yet, the intent to continue driving legitimate trade forward with the House is far more important. Assisting in the search to find a suitable partner for my Countess is far more important. Wondering who I might install as a Minister of War or Loyalty. Learning more about the inner workings of economics is proving more interesting to me than attending certain social events. Bookkeeping. Planning. Watching our coffers increase by the week is incredibly satisfying. This is where I am now - and it's a very nice, if occasionally lonely, place to be.
So, with such taken into consideration -- I might simply find a lover for myself for the immediate time being. Otherwise, I might end up stretching myself thin, or providing mediocre service to my liege-lady.
Neither which is an acceptable option. Only success.
Oddly, it reminds me of my mother. My mother told me a few things about the world when I was young. She said: "Everyone is going to break your heart, if you're generous." But, I haven't found that to be true at all. Or, at least not yet! What she should have said was: "Being the Voice of a House is going to be the most busy, and possibly loneliest endeavor in the world." Ah! Then, she would be right, and I would remember her advice now so that I would be feeling less alone, and more blessed by the fact that my House is thriving.
I will admit to being tempted to do things outside of my scope - there is an interest to pursue love and a match for myself. I doubt that anyone is willing to marry down - or worse! Marry sideways and take my name. Yet, the intent to continue driving legitimate trade forward with the House is far more important. Assisting in the search to find a suitable partner for my Countess is far more important. Wondering who I might install as a Minister of War or Loyalty. Learning more about the inner workings of economics is proving more interesting to me than attending certain social events. Bookkeeping. Planning. Watching our coffers increase by the week is incredibly satisfying. This is where I am now - and it's a very nice, if occasionally lonely, place to be.
So, with such taken into consideration -- I might simply find a lover for myself for the immediate time being. Otherwise, I might end up stretching myself thin, or providing mediocre service to my liege-lady.
Neither which is an acceptable option. Only success.
Written By Vanora
July 10, 2017, 12:32 a.m.(10/22/1006 AR)
Relationship Note on Octavia
The Marquis of Kennex sister is someone I wish to know better. Someone I will need to know better, and thus I have set it as a goal.
I do not know what qualities she admires. I am devoted to finding out though, and to showing her each and every one of them.
Even if it means finding ways to style myself in pants.
Now that is devotion.
I do not know what qualities she admires. I am devoted to finding out though, and to showing her each and every one of them.
Even if it means finding ways to style myself in pants.
Now that is devotion.
Written By Octavia
July 10, 2017, 12:05 a.m.(10/22/1006 AR)
Relationship Note on Titania
Dearest cousin, don't be upset that you're unwed. Be grateful that you still have your youth to chase after youthful pursuits. Your time will come soon enough.
Please note that the scholars may take some time preparing your journal for others to read.